In early 2017, I cut my hair short for the first time since I’ve been in charge of my own haircuts.
In late 2017, I bleached my hair for the first time ever.
The bleaching was strategic. We lifted the top layer of my hair and did highlights below, so that as they grow out, the roots won’t be visible. This also means the highlights aren’t as visible. A deep red faded to a funky pink, and at my toddler’s request, we re-dyed the bleached bits a deep purple (we being me, with the help of my fantastic friend and stylist – not me and my toddler) with only minor trouble.
Despite me having purple hair right now, it’s still a conservative take on purple hair. As my hair curls, little bits of dark purple peek out, and they’re only really visible if you’re looking, or if there’s direct light. After all, I am over 30.
Yep, I just said that. I am over 30.
I have this odd dichotomy in my thinking where I’m fine with everyone else wearing and doing whatever makes them happy, but I’m hyper critical of myself. My favorite word is “contrived” – no seriously, ask my husband. If I put in effort to really put an outfit together, I worry it looks contrived. If I put on makeup, I look in the mirror and ask myself, is this contrived? I never want to look like I’m trying too hard because that would indicate that I care enough about what other people think that I did try that hard. And I don’t care that much.
See what I mean? Being me is very complicated.
Side note: I was feeling halfway decent this weekend as we headed out to Target, which is VERY GLAMOROUS THANK YOU, and I asked my husband, “do I look nice or is it like, “whoa, look at that hot mess with lipstick on?” [Should there be a double end quote here? I don’t know, so I’m leaving it as is.]
But anyway. This all brings me to my next topic. AGING. Specifically, GREY HAIR.
This mama is rocking short, fine, wavy-to-curly hair in a natural medium brown, with carefully placed purple streaks and grey hairs sticking out.
And the thing about greys is that they’re not like regular hair. They’re coarser, springier, with a sarcastic little life of their own. If they sat neatly with the rest of their neighbors it wouldn’t be a big deal, but no. They don’t want to do that. They want to pop up in odd directions and scream, “hey y’all, look at me!” Like total jerks.
I’m not ready to dye my entire head. That’s a lot of trouble. A lot of upkeep. And I like my natural color! Eventually I’m sure I’ll do it, but not yet. So I need to get used to and ignore my greys (which I swear all had babies the same time I did, because since becoming a mom of 2, I’m telling you, they’re everywhere).
Aside from my greys, things are changing. Things are always changing. Do I sometimes feel old and boring? Of course. But more often I just…feel. I’ll take getting older over the alternative, so it’s not worth the aggravation of getting myself flustered over getting older.
But enough about me and my hair. I want to tell you about…okay well, my hair, BUT SOMETHING ELSE TOO.
Dry shampoo. Have you tried it?
I can’t get the hang of it. I’ve tried different brands, a lot and a little, with long hair and short hair – and now that I have color treated hair, I really need to shampoo less often to preserve the color – and I just don’t like it. My hair doesn’t feel cleaner. In fact, the residue it leaves sort of grosses me out.
So I did a little research and I found another option. Ready?
If you’re not familiar with arrowroot powder, it’s a starch extracted from tropical tubers including arrowroot and cassava. [Kermit the Frog, singing sensation behind Caribbean Amphibian (my all time favorite song) should make a triumphant return with the follow up, Tropical Tuber. I’m just saying.]
Arrowroot is pretty excellent. It can be used in cooking to thicken sauces, and it is used in paleo baking in place of flour (just be sure to buy a type that’s means to be consumed). It’s also a common ingredient in natural deodorants, and an excellent substitute for talc powder (which we know now is a carcinogen), because it absorbs moisture. It can be purchased online from suppliers like Brambleberry Soap, or found in health food stores and even some supermarkets – I recently purchased a bag at our local Best Market, with the gluten free flours in the baking aisle.
So how do you use it as a dry shampoo? It’s pretty simple.
Step 1: Put arrowroot in devoted container for this use, or small bowl.
Step 2: Grab blush or foundation brush (clean!).
Step 3: Part your hair and dab some on your scalp, continuing to part and dab until your head is fairly well saturated with arrowroot.
Step 4: Wait 10 minutes. Scroll through Instagram. File your nails. Whatever.
Step 5: Brush your hair to move the powder from the roots down your hair, and remove some of it.
Step 6: Rinse with water, or don’t, then style and go about your business.
I have dark hair, so I mixed in a little unsweetened cocoa powder so it’s not bright white. Also, it smells awesome. Dabbing it into my hair still made me look a thousand times greyer (JUST WHAT I WANT), but it helped. Once I brush my curls they’re done for the day, so I need to rinse, but I can do it without shampoo. And hey! My hair dries nicely and feels normal, not greasy.
I typically shampoo my hair every other day. This method allows me to shampoo, wait 2 days, dry shampoo, and then shampoo again on the 5th day. Could I get away with just rinsing? Probably. But just rinsing won’t suck up any scalp oil that’s lurking, waiting for the perfect moment to strike, making your bouncy locks into an oil slick that would make Severus Snape (of beloved memory, may he rest in peace, I’m not crying you’re crying) jealous.
If you, like me, are a dry shampoo hater, I hope this helped you out. Grab some arrowroot in the supermarket and if you don’t like how it works with your hair, grab some almond flour too and I’ll give you a cookie recipe. Whatever works.
[Who is slightly manic from potty training and teething (two different children, one issue apiece) and not really sleeping; this results in way more typing in all caps than usual. Also, she doesn’t leave the house more frequently than every 5 days or so.]